Dr. Phil explains why he believes it’s so important for children to have relationships with extended family, such as grandparents
I'm grateful that my son's lives are focused around family. In my youth, I listened to Grandad's words of advice, and heeded his warnings. But what I miss more than anything are his stories and how he made me laugh. We are each our own person, but our family stories are part of who we are.
Until very recently, raising children almost always included the support of extended family and friends. These days, parents often feel terribly isolated as they attempt to meet the needs of their children, whether they are raising them on their own or with a partner.
As with many issues post-divorce, people may lose sight of what's best for the kids because they're busy thinking about what they want and not what's best for the grandkids. Kaiser stresses the importance of setting boundaries while being flexible and reasonable, with a willingness to make changes if needed.
First of all, everyone involved is an adult. This makes them peers. No longer is the parent-child dynamic in play... or at least, it shouldn't be. Adults are presumed to be independent, capable of decision-making, and no longer in need of active, hands-on parenting.
He asked me recently, "Do you have a husband?" I said, "No," but it bothered me later. I have a life partner whom I've been with for over 20 years, a woman Nicholas calls "Aunt Barbara."
What's interesting about this: I'm being completely objective. It's all just true. They actually are the two most beautiful and smart and talented young women in the whole world. I'm not kidding myself, like most people do about their children, grandchildren, nieces, whatever.
My children feel more deeply for our parents than we can. They hold them high, unable to see flaws or strengths, history or potential. They just love them today. Our parents return the love with genuine freedom, without promise or regret, pressure or expectation
The Last of the Mohicans was made in 1992, just after my mother (the next to the last of my Mohicans) succumbed to cancer. Very much in Chingachgook's moccasins, I am the last, now, of the Boleman-Herrings.
Huff/Post50 recently covered a survey by the AARP that found grandparents play a vital role in family life in the U.S. From