falling out of love
It's possible to reignite the spark.
Relationships are never all bad, and you might have been trying too hard to focus on the things you still valued while you were slipping away inside. You've been struggling with whether you're really done or just need a new way to be together.
What were the themes that led a person to fall out of love? Loss of trust, loss of intimacy and no longer feeling loved by his/her spouse. This led to great emotional pain which made the person feel bad about him/herself, further destroying his/her love for his/her spouse.
Marry someone you like. Not just someone you love. Like is actually more important and much more powerful than love. Like is what makes a relationship withstand the test of time. Do you like being with the person, just hanging out doing nothing?
Unless you are able to learn from and heal your fears, you may get stuck in this negative pattern. Love quickly vanishes in the face of this closed, protective behavior.
Perhaps it's not accurate to use the phrase "falling out of love" as the title of this post. It's more that we fall out of infatuation so that the work of learning about what it really means to be in love can begin.
Whoever thought the time would come when you are no longer in love with the person that you said "I do" to?
Projection is a defense or an addiction against feeling the natural fear and grief associate with a transition and the anxiety, self-doubt, and old traumas around love of your wounded self.