fear of change
Fear of change is one of the biggest characteristics and challenges of a divorce. It doesn't matter whether your spouse left you or you left him, change is scary. Even if deep in your heart you know the marriage can't work any longer, change is scary. And even if you know that staying in the past is most likely worse than facing the unknown future, change is scary.
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I was frustrated with Jif, but the parallels to my own life were too stark to ignore. How many times had I allowed my irrational fears or limited vision to keep me from a new and wonderful experience?
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Though it will be difficult, Father Rohr explains why letting go of the pain of your past is the best thing you can do. "Now
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My name is Jill, and I'm afraid of change. Well, at least I was. In two weeks, I will be moving 400 miles away from my current home.
How can you learn to embrace risk for the sake of your future happiness, particularly when risk taking doesn't come to you naturally? When you think about making a change, focus only on what you have to gain, and banish all thoughts of what you might lose.
We all fear changes in our lives, and most of us associate change with negative results. That's why I like to re-frame the idea of change by pointing out that without change, nothing in this world would ever get better.
Lately, Briar has been preoccupied with the idea of growing up. She seems convinced that by doing so, I will somehow cease to be her mom. Last night, after her sisters had been tucked in, we talked nose-to-nose about what growing up really means.
Without change in ourselves we become stifled and stagnant; without change in the world we will not survive. Such impermanence means that every difficulty, challenge, joy, or success will, at some point, be different: This too shall pass.
How do you feel about change? If you're anything like me, you probably have mixed feelings about it. While it often depends on our perception of the type of change -- big or small, good or bad, needed or unnecessary, easy or hard, etc. - most of us seek and fear change simultaneously.
The best things in life come out of change. We don't have to embrace change by diving in to those cold choppy waters headfirst, but if we can start by just dipping our toes in, one foot at a time, before we know it, we'll be well on our way to arriving at our new destination.
Why should we care if someone else changes? What's it got to do with us?
Life is uncertainty. Life is change. There are islands of calm and certainty scattered throughout the ocean, but for the anxious mind the challenge is to learn how to find serenity even during the storm.
People fear change because they fear uncertainty and what they don't know. In fact, fear is the epicenter of all unhappiness. It's what lies behind every problem and is what keeps most people stuck. Change, though, is quite possible.
Recent research shows that people have a very reliable and tangible preference for things that have been around longer.
Many of us resist change because we are more comfortable with the known, as bad as it may be, compared to the unknown, which we fear could be far worse. What can we do about it?
When we finally do achieve health care restructuring, I hope that some of us will take a moment to look at that powerful human preference for the status quo over anything else.