We all know dating in the queer community can be tough.
@huffpostgay #WhatFemmeLooksLike pic.twitter.com/3gCQNNpmKG — Samantha Orlando (@CallMeGryff) September 27, 2014 Most homophobia
As long as this statistic is being touted as a scientifically proven fact, we have a problem. It is daily espousing a condescending correlation between lesbian identity and unhealthy weight. This notion is and will continue to affect the physical and emotional well-being of many a queer girl, both young and old.
Each week I receive hundreds of letters from feminine lesbians worldwide who feel invisible. These raw and often emotional messages inspired me to produce this video. Its intention is to help more women realize that their feelings regarding their sexual orientation are legitimate and that they are not alone.
Youtube hasn't just brought ROSWEGLYN together as friends, but it also has brought a whole new community along with it where acceptance is key.
We had talked about language not long after we got engaged, but hadn't come to any conclusions. I didn't like referring to myself as the "bride" because that has very girly/feminine connotations to it for me.
Feminine lesbians are often told 'you're too pretty to be queer,' and bear gays are rendered invisible by their masculinity, yet the term 'gay face' is used as an insult. Is there a such thing as 'looking gay,' and is there a cultural value to it?
Most people who spew such nonsense expect me to delight in their backhanded praise, but believing that there is a point at which a woman is too attractive to be gay is based on the assumption that heterosexual women are inherently better-looking, and that's homophobic.
I want femme lesbians to be recognised for who we are, to be acknowledged, accepted, and respected. I do not want to be seen as my partner's sister, and I do not want to be viewed as not truly belonging to the lesbian community.