Managing our own emotions and behaviors is the key to teaching kids how to manage theirs.
Regardless of whether you're on a stage singing a song, in an office giving a presentation, public speaking, taking a test, running a football or fighting a tiger, your fight or flight system operates in the exact same way. So what can you do about it?
It's not that we lack self-discipline or willpower to be successful. The problem is that dieting couldn't be more opposite to how we're evolutionarily designed to survive and function best. Could you ever imagine our distant ancestors going against their biological drive for survival by purposefully eating less food when it was available?
You may think you got dealt a lousy genetic hand when it came to fat distribution, but what you might not know is that chronic fat around your midsection might be due to stress.
The survival instinct designed to give us tools to fight or flee has turned on us. Now that it is on inappropriately, this response can have the opposite effect. Instead of saving our lives, it can contribute to insomnia, depression, panic attacks, and a host of other health concerns.
Fear. Your mortal enemy and career killer. How can one emotion help you fly through one situation like you have wings, yet be your downfall in another situation?
If the fight-or-flight survival instinct, which is so deeply woven into our DNA, no longer fulfills our most basic needs to survive, what new form of survival instinct do we need to evolve to help us to survive in the concrete, metal, and hard-wired world in which we now live?
The fight-or-flight reaction to threats is far too simplistic to effectively overcome many of the threats we are confronted with today. In fact, not only is this hardwired response often not effective, but it can be counterproductive to our survival.
The human body responds to stress with a powerful fight-or-flight reaction. For much of human history, this emergency response system was useful. But today, the stress in most people's lives comes from the more psychological and seemingly endless pressures of modern life.
Elections are mirrors of a nation's consciousness, so it makes sense -- sad sense, unfortunately -- that the 2010 election
Down in the hard wiring and chemistry of the brain's survival instincts, if you show someone a picture of Roger Clemens and talk about the charges that he lied, it's like showing them a picture of a snake.
Large scale violence happens for the same reason that most violence does. When we are threatened, we often protect ourselves with physical force. It's instinctive.