"It's like shooting somebody in the thigh and then saying, 'Can you forgive me right now?'"

Yom Kippur, the Jewish holiday of repentance, had barely been over for 14 hours and I was already fighting with my husband. Has my Teflon-coated mind not retained a single shred of serenity? Repentance? Determination to be better? To do better?

As I close my eyes before I go to sleep, the hours of footage I studied earlier that day replays in my head over and over again. The interview sound bites are imprinted in my mind as I piece them together on an imaginary timeline.

Interpersonal cues -- body language, facial expressions, voice tone and pitch -- are great indicators of what is going on during an interpersonal exchange. Think of these cues as a starting point, a spark, to assess the situation; but, don't draw an iron clad conclusion based exclusively on your individual interpretation of their meaning.