Advice from experts who talk the talk and walk the walk.
There's an art to arguing.
5. Remain task-oriented. Know what you want going into the disagreement. If you don't have a goal in mind, you won't know
And as a woman who has been in the marriage trenches for 15 years, while I don't have a degree in counseling, my degree in the hard knock world of marriage has taught me some lessons about what it takes to STAY MARRIED.
Healthy fighting begins with empathy. After all, this is your beloved with whom you are fighting. The empathic process is a positive way to disagree, problem solve and find compromise.
The first two years of marriage are a tricky time for most couples. The high of the wedding is over and real life sets in. In our first year and a half of marriage we had more than our share of arguments, and none of them were pretty.
6. Relax your muscles. Hang your arms limply. Focus especially on relaxing the little muscles around your mouth and eyes
Argument and debate are going to happen, even in the best of partnerships, but it doesn't have to mean doomsday or that you're not compatible. In fact, I have found some conflict can actually be a stepping stone to a more honest, intimate place and can foster better communication.
Mr. Curry and I were in a fight last night, which derailed, as it often does this last year, into a fight about how we fight, who is doing what wrong and how often they do it and why it makes us crazy and unable to get anywhere.
Differences of opinion are normal and healthy in adult relationships and learning to compromise is a skill required in many