The signs that you're undergoing a mid-life crisis are many. However, most share a common thread and can be classified into a few neat categories that basically all mean the same thing: 1) Oblivious, 2) Clueless, 3) Misplaced, 4) Misguided, and finally, 5) Out of touch.
I am not suggesting that we just suppose that everyone around us can be trusted and we need not worry about our personal safety or the security of personal belongings. But I do propose giving up the practice of focusing on the faults of other people and, instead, looking for their good qualities.
I now find myself turning the age that is supposed to be "the new 30," but that feels like a mathematical impossibility. I've realized that it's not the aging process itself that I fear. I do my best to fear only things I have some control over, like icky spiders and abdominal fat. It is the stigma of age that I fear most.
I think in turning 40, perhaps it is forcing me to take a step back. Not to look at 40 years that have passed, but rather 14,600 days that have passed -- 14,600 days to make myself either a better person, a worse person or a person that can make a difference in someone else's life.
These "dos" are suggestions for making dating better and more purposeful -- and make sure you are not the one weeded out on someone else's search for love.
This is what I know for sure: Love is still ahead of me and I won't settle for anything less. And if I'm lucky, neither will he.