Ugh, all the feels.
Our friendships are a reflection of who we are. As we are growing and evolving as human beings, we may realize that some aspect of ourselves is no longer serving us. As a result, we may find ourselves needing to let friends go as well.
Something about the way Dave had said she was doing well let me know that all my unreturned phone calls, the quick greetings and the explanations that she had to run but would call me right back had nothing to do with her increased hours at work, her dad or anything else. It was me.
"I never liked him." "You could do so much better." "Now you have time to work on yourself!" Sound familiar? The BuzzFeed
When a friendship dies, women are left hurt, ashamed, angry and confused. Unlike romantic relationships -- in which there's generally the expectation of monogamy -- there's no such equivalent in friendship.
About a year ago, give or take a few months, I had a big fight with my best friend. The kind of argument where you swear you're right, and so do they. The kind that leaves scars that tattoo you for years to come.
Every friendship is different, and every end is thus unique. But how do we know when to say goodbye? And does that goodbye need to be accompanied with ensuing "breakup" drama?
But hey, what happens when that best friend and you are suddenly... over? In my case, our "breakup" happened in less than 24 hours; seven years of friendship gone just like that.
Every relationship has a season, some lasting a lifetime while others are meant to be only short term. It doesn't mean that they were not valuable relationships, only that you learned what you were supposed to learn, helped who you were supposed to help, and gained a lesson along the way.
It seems that some friendships are destined to fail, or perhaps just pause. Crises or shared experiences bring us together and then as time goes by, we discover our friend isn't the person we thought she was.