The first question I always get asked is how coming out of the closet has been for me, so late -- as if being divorced means that I've just realized that I'm gay. The question comes with veneer of "oh, you poor thing" meaning "ooh, fresh meat." And of course I then say, "No, it's from a guy."

The commitment between two people is about the willingness to be fully in the relationship, not about the marriage license. A vital relationship reflects who we are and our particular and personal values. It can take many forms.

In the first week of January, Florida joined 35 other states in legalizing same-sex marriage. This has been met with a celebration by many couples who have now finally experienced their marriage ceremonies after years of waiting. Another thing happened that day -- same-sex spouses in Florida filed for divorce.