I'm approaching 30, and I've been dating him for over half a decade. We've lived in four cities together, and we share our home, our creative work and our dreams with each other. He's the one, and I plan to marry him. But not today. And even after all the progress we've made in the name of women's independence, I'm still shamed for it.
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Emotional maturity is an essential ingredient in creating a stable, loving, and long-lasting relationship. It does not come naturally with age. Couples who have been married 30 plus years and are still locked in a power struggle have not yet achieved emotional maturity as they are often stuck in the blame game and the cycle of reactivity.
Unfortunately, I know a thing or two about divorce. My parents divorced when I was in my twenties, and my first marriage ended in divorce after 13 years. Even my closest friends all have parents who are divorced.
Just a few short months ago, my parents celebrated their 30th wedding anniversary. Like most couples, they have also faced their fair share of challenges during the duration of their marriage, and they relied on each other to get through them. I feel fortunate to have such great role models for my own marriage.
Pillemer, a Cornell University gerontologist, studied over 700 elders, many of whom had been married for 50 to 70 years. After
My husband and I have discussed what we want the next few years to hold for us. For example, we want to pay off debt and be more purposeful when it comes to romance. What about you? Are you and your spouse on the same page when it comes to future hopes and dreams?
If you want a better shot at a marriage that lasts a lifetime, taking these actions before the big day will help you avoid becoming just another statistic and make it to the happily ever after.
Growing up with parents who aren't afraid to be themselves around each other has shown me how necessary it is to feel comfortable around your spouse or partner. It's shown me that trust follows honesty, and honesty is only possible if both parties work for it.
As a couples' therapist, I've come to realize that people rush to marriage and sometimes get married for all the wrong reasons or they do it way too early. Couples sometimes feel they have to get married because it fits a paradigm of how they see their life.