As I clench the sides of the sink with my fingers, a flood of past memories surge through my body. A million thoughts run
I don’t know how it happened. I’ve connected with a young widow newer on this journey than I. My dear wister (widow sister
It gets at something beneath the surface and can break open the path toward healing.
This has by far been the most difficult year for me personally in my entire life. It seems I woke up one morning and had lost my marriage, two of my kids, my finances, my career was on the rocks and I almost lost my life. We are only five months in and I see no respite in sight.
How to Prevent Abandonment Issues From Sabotaging Your Love Life: 12 Things to Know on Your Path to Recovery
For many people, falling in love means becoming more vulnerable. It arouses our primal abandonment fear. It bubbles up from the deep, giving rise to feelings of insecurity that can cause some of us to become needy, clingy, or demanding, and others angry, frozen, or avoidant.
Primal fear is what makes going through divorce, separation, bereavement, loss of a job, loss of a dream so difficult. It triggers abandonment -- our first fear -- a fear universal to all human beings. It is a feeling of being left on the doorstep, of feeling left behind.
5. Use your journal to maintain a daily routine of self-reflection. Your pen is a tool for staying focused. To increase motivation
Weather the storm by using it as grist for developing some emotional self-reliance. By increasing your own stability and constancy, you gain strength and help to advance the relationship. When your partner starts treating you ambivalently, here are a few tips for handling it:
Step 4: Recognize that you are not alone in being alone. Millions of people are caught up in patterns that bar them from
I know you -- the heartbroken. I've been there recently, and plenty before. I know you better than you think I do. I know heartbreak as well as I know the taste of the ocean in my tears and the way my breath gets stuck in my heart instead of my throat. I know you'd assume I would say that I wish I didn't.
What helped to facilitate this moment of closeness was that John was not blaming Sandra, nor was he making excuses for his
When we experience unrequited love -- a lack of emotional reciprocity from the other person - it is natural to feel insecure and needy. It can cause us to aim our emotional suction cups toward our partner which only succeeds at creating greater distance. Here are 12 things you can do...
And let's remember: We can't always choose what happens to us. We don't always make the right choices. But we do have a choice in this present moment about how we respond to our past and make way for our future.