I like the commercial where a little girl is sitting behind the wheel of a car, saying 'Bye Dad. I'll be okay.' Dad watches, carefully hands her the keys. Right before she drives off, we see that she's really 18. How time can fly. Now your almost legal child is going to college.
How I came to lose my helicopter blades.
You're not doing your kids any favors.
Helicopter parenting has become the go-to buzz word in the child-raising world. Everybody is critical of parents deemed to be overly protective of their child and helicopter parenting has become blamed for the failure of children everywhere to successfully grow up.
As parents, you are constantly walking on a thin line. If you don't show up at the school enough, it's assumed you don't care about your child's education; show up too much and you're a "helicopter parent" who suffocates your child and her/his teachers by your "overinvestment."
Just because you don't follow your kid to her job interview doesn't mean you aren't helicopter parenting.
Accepting sadness or anything other than delighted emotion may be a harder sell for parents in these helicopter days of swooping down to rescue our children from any discomfort we weren't quick enough to prevent in the first place.
Babies enter into the world utterly dependent on their caregivers. The art of good parenting comes in knowing when to help our children grow strong by letting them struggle on their own. The story of The Man and the Butterfly demonstrates the importance of helping wisely:
Why did parenting change from preparing our kids for life to protecting them from life, which means they're not prepared to live life on their own? And why do these problems I'm writing about seem rooted in the middle and upper middle classes?
"Overall, stepping in and doing for a child what the child developmentally should be doing for him or herself, is negative