This light shows all of our flaws. This was my moment to shine. I would crack a joke, or compliment my mom in some way to
Like many Americans, I spent last night watching—yet again—the horrifying tragedy of racial violence in our cities. In the
GPS for the Soul
Sometimes you've got to let people fall on their face, scrape their knee, break a few bones, suffer an unrecoverable injury and you not be there to kiss their wounds. Let them nurse their own pain. Survive with no survival kit. And learn even without you they can still find their way.
You feel like it's all your fault. You feel like your body is failing. So that means you are failing. The reality is, a high-risk pregnancy can happen to anyone. At any time. You didn't do anything wrong. You didn't cause this and you certainly aren't failing.
Let's hope this this wonderful Himalayan country with its unique cultures and courageous people can survive and flourish in the future.
Dr. Atul Gawande's Being Mortal: Medicine and What Matters in the End provides healthy doses of reality - the realities of disease, deterioration, debilitation, decline, dementia, dependence, despondency, and demise.
My friend Kendrick calls us "guerilla grandmothers." As a White person, and as I inch up towards age 60, I have definitely shifted how I engage in public response to racial profiling, police brutality and lack of accountability in Ferguson, Staten Island, and my hometown of Minneapolis.
In a world where it has become exceedingly common and even trendy to be apathetic towards a different people's struggle, you are, by default, already doing something by feeling what you're feeling.
There wasn't one person who graced that stage who didn't, at one time or another, think, "This is too much. I can't handle it." And everyone who has come around the bend of that stress-induced despair didn't do it by beating stress or "winning," but by changing their mindset.
While it is natural to reflect on upsetting experiences, brooding involves replaying the same scenes in your mind and reliving the emotional distress you felt at the time. Once you are in the habit of ruminating, the urge to brood can be easy to trigger and difficult to ignore.
While you certainly don't have to pretend that everything is roses, I suggest trying to identify things about yourself, about dating, or about your life that you do like, in order to help you reframe your mindset.
We can learn that helplessness isn't inherently a trauma. We are each born into it, and someday each will return to it, but it's a natural state of living and being alive. Do we approach helplessness as the infant?
As a physician, forensic psychiatrist and novelist, it would be easy for me to write about medicine, psychiatry and courtrooms -- all of which have been, or are still, part of my life and experiences.
In taking a leavened, eyes-open view of our controlling emotion, we see through it and experience the curious and novel landscape beyond that of incapacity. When we honor its transparency, and accept it for what it is, helplessness is transformed into helpfulness.
Before we need a gun debate in this country, or on this planet, we need a sensible discussion about the nature of empowerment.
Haitians have a famous saying about shame and anger; my mother says it all the time when talking about someone who hides behind a wall of anger because they are ashamed of their own behavior but won't or don't know how to admit it. Li fe la wont sevi kole.
How do you light up the world? How do you bring light to another person's life? Each of us has the power to make the world a little bit brighter. Each of us can choose to shine our own light, transforming the darkness one flicker at a time.
My tone went beseeching. It was wringing its delicate hands. It was wearing a little pink dress. What is this voice girls and women slip into so naturally, and then out of again, on a daily basis?
A lisp can undo the most eloquent speaker, and bad spelling can drain the charge from the most electric writing, and saying f*** all the time makes you easy to dismiss. It's a shame a kind heart these days isn't close to enough.
We always have the right to feel whatever we feel. We also have the right to express anger when we feel hurt or betrayed. However, the real question is not whether you have the right, but whether or not your anger is working for you.