"It’s not my job to change."
If you go to any toy store, the section marked for boys has sporting equipment, action figures, and race cars. The section for girls? Princess dolls and play vanity sets. What messages do we send when these are the general choices we give our kids?
Her name is Elisa Lopez. She is not a nameless subway passenger in a skirt. She is not a YouTube video. She is not a blurred face. She is you, she is me, she is your sister and your best friend.
If catcalling is just about how men are "hardwired" and therefore should be accepted, surely straight men should have no problem with gay men paying them compliments on their bodies and offering greetings on the street, right? Wrong. I don't even have to make the video to know what would happen. And that exposes the fallacy of catcallers who say that they're "just being men."
This issue should continue to be examined, articulated and pressed forward with the legitimate chance of actualizing legislation to ensure that catcalling and street harassment is a prosecutable crime.
Help me understand this. If a man--a stranger--says, "How are you this morning?" or "Have a nice evening" to a woman--a stranger--on the street, we're to interpret this as sexual harassment? What if he says, "God bless you--have a good day, alright?" Still harassment?
Street harassment and gender-based violence are real and serious. They should be recognized and called out for what they are. However, to accuse men of harassment just because you don't want to associate with them for whatever reason is a gross trivialization of actual harassment.