how to say no
Saying 'no' is an expression of true love and consideration. Many times it's beneficial for everyone, kids and parents alike ... and even for your relationships with your significant other. Haven't you at least on one occasion said 'no' to that decadent dessert that just called to you on the menu?
Recently I was reminded of an important life lesson. It's the lesson of knowing it's ok to just say no and how to say it. A favor was asked of me; however I knew my response would be no. Sharing the situation with my best friend I asked, "How do I say it?" She immediately responded back and said, "Just say NO!"
If people do say no, they usually do it in ineffective ways that come with an excuse. For example, they might say, "I'd like to help but I'm really busy". The problem with this approach is it gives the other person an opportunity to continue to ask. They feel they have an opening. "Since you're busy this week how about next week?"
Each day I remind myself that I'm the one with the stomping boots, I'm the one in charge. I'd love for you to do the same. To beat that destructive inner critic into being the supportive friend it should be.
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Many women have trouble saying no for a variety of reasons. We are natural nurturers, we aim to please, we like to lighten others loads and then of course there's that thing called guilt. Saying yes all the time to things you do not want to do or have time for can lead to chaos in your life.
Capturing someone's attention and getting them to do exactly what you want isn't about being the loudest or shiniest one in the room. It's about saying precisely what needs to be said, and not one word more. It's about calculated brevity. And if you study today's top celebrities, you'll see: it's an art form.