Looking back at the #WhyIStayed viral movement a year later.
It's important that we continue discussing domestic violence, but it's also important that we take action to ensure victims get the justice they deserve and abusers get the help they need.
Those angry with LeBron James for simply changing employers began burning his jersey mere hours after the announcement, not waiting seven months to hopefully exchange them. I seem to have missed the videos of fans burning the Rice jerseys. Maybe changing teams is a greater offense than delivering a hook to the jaw of a woman in an elevator.
If you have been a victim of someone else that had stayed, learn to live and let go. Learn to teach the next generations what you have seen through your own personal trauma and in return heal yourself.
Obviously, the inconsistency in the League's response to certain violations of the NFL's personal conduct policy is becoming a serious issue.
This week, the country had a national teach-in about domestic violence courtesy of a grainy elevator video showing Baltimore Ravens running back Ray Rice knocking out his then-fiancée Janay Palmer. The dark, disturbing images sparked the soul-searching coast-to-coast conversation this issue deserves. In the two days after the video's release, calls to the National Domestic Abuse Hotline shot up 84 percent. And while some shamefully implied that victims who stay in abusive relationships are somehow culpable for their abuse, the hashtag #WhyIStayed, begun by Beverly Gooden, provided a harrowing array of deeply poignant answers. Though questions remain about what NFL Commissioner Roger Goodell knew and when he knew it, it's clear this issue goes far beyond the NFL. Ray Rice is just the tip of the iceberg -- beneath it lies a culture and legal system that perpetuates this kind of violence in millions of cases that we never see.
Scrolling down these tweets, I couldn't help but wonder: how many more women bear the same brunt of intimate partner violence? How many more women struggle to break the vicious cycle of violence and reconciliation that keeps them holding on to abusive relationships?
There's a lot of chatter online as women share their stories of abuse. Some people in the conversation who are critical of Janay for staying in her marriage with her abuser claim that we are victim-blaming her and not being supportive or understanding of another couple's marriage.
We have long used women as the scapegoat for men's "inability to control themselves" causing them to physically or sexually assault women. When a man is accused of hitting or assaulting a woman, the first question is typically, "What did she do or wear?"
"We had an outpouring of women saying, 'Oh my god, I didn't realize this happened to other people.' They thought they were