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Looking back at the #WhyIStayed viral movement a year later.
Athletes are usually well liked and serve as role models for many people. For not just sport fans but for all concerned by sexual assault, an athlete's silence can be detrimental to positive change.
It's important that we continue discussing domestic violence, but it's also important that we take action to ensure victims get the justice they deserve and abusers get the help they need.
The original sin is not knowledge, it is rape. When men, women, and children are rendered powerless in the face of violence, there should be no tolerance for that.
Those angry with LeBron James for simply changing employers began burning his jersey mere hours after the announcement, not waiting seven months to hopefully exchange them. I seem to have missed the videos of fans burning the Rice jerseys. Maybe changing teams is a greater offense than delivering a hook to the jaw of a woman in an elevator.
If you have been a victim of someone else that had stayed, learn to live and let go. Learn to teach the next generations what you have seen through your own personal trauma and in return heal yourself.
Obviously, the inconsistency in the League's response to certain violations of the NFL's personal conduct policy is becoming a serious issue.
I was shocked to read, was the following excerpt of Dr. Boyce Watkins's open letter to Janay Rice in which he calls women who stay with their abusers in order to keep their families intact "heroes."
As the nation faces a historic moment in the domestic violence prevention movement, let's not forget that children are the often neglected "other victim" in domestic abuse cases.
This week, the country had a national teach-in about domestic violence courtesy of a grainy elevator video showing Baltimore Ravens running back Ray Rice knocking out his then-fiancée Janay Palmer. The dark, disturbing images sparked the soul-searching coast-to-coast conversation this issue deserves. In the two days after the video's release, calls to the National Domestic Abuse Hotline shot up 84 percent. And while some shamefully implied that victims who stay in abusive relationships are somehow culpable for their abuse, the hashtag #WhyIStayed, begun by Beverly Gooden, provided a harrowing array of deeply poignant answers. Though questions remain about what NFL Commissioner Roger Goodell knew and when he knew it, it's clear this issue goes far beyond the NFL. Ray Rice is just the tip of the iceberg -- beneath it lies a culture and legal system that perpetuates this kind of violence in millions of cases that we never see.
Scrolling down these tweets, I couldn't help but wonder: how many more women bear the same brunt of intimate partner violence? How many more women struggle to break the vicious cycle of violence and reconciliation that keeps them holding on to abusive relationships?
There's a lot of chatter online as women share their stories of abuse. Some people in the conversation who are critical of Janay for staying in her marriage with her abuser claim that we are victim-blaming her and not being supportive or understanding of another couple's marriage.
We have long used women as the scapegoat for men's "inability to control themselves" causing them to physically or sexually assault women. When a man is accused of hitting or assaulting a woman, the first question is typically, "What did she do or wear?"
Often times when there are debates about sexism in the Black community, male counterparts ask, "What privileges do Black men have?" In case you're still wondering, this is what Black male privilege looks like.
Honestly, what the hell is going on in the NFL? As Andrew Hill discusses today in the Financial Times, Ray Rice is merely the latest scandal in an organization plagued with racism, bullying, homophobia and misogyny.
"But there's really nothing new about this tragedy," Dr. Murray told me. "Nothing new at all. It's like all these guys read the same abuser handbook. They're not unique. They're just abusers, and they all do the same thing."
"We had an outpouring of women saying, 'Oh my god, I didn't realize this happened to other people.' They thought they were