Is sex the same nearing 70 as it was at 50? No, but that's not necessarily bad news. The lessons I've gleaned over the past few decades have actually made sex a better experience.
Dating has also gone through a radical transformation since we were teenagers. When we were young and hormonal the sexual nature of teenagers was primal. We dated with fervor reminiscent of prehistoric man who mated frenetically to ensure the survival of the species.
A recent birthday brought me to within shouting distance of 70. My thoughts associated with this unexpected but appreciated event are focused on the great energy and confidence I'm feeling about my life. I'm fine tuning it and making adjustments along the way to ensure the joy continues. Sensum Boomerum Vita is Latin, I hope, for an awareness of where I am as a boomer in life's continuum.
There are three Bermuda Triangles boomer men can get lost in. The first is in the Atlantic Ocean. The second is a crude reference to a part of a woman's anatomy some men insist they routinely get lost in. The third is boomer dating, the subject of this article, and the three legs are boomer women, casual sex, and myopic expectations.
It's virtually impossible to express a strong point of view about dating, sex, and relationships without provoking anyone. When I hear a boomer woman say she's given up dating, my knee jerk reaction is to argue against her decision. Giving up dating conflicts with my lifelong attitude about never giving up on anything worthwhile.
A boomer first date can be an unnerving experience and a double-edged sword. Sure, there's a lot of excitement and some sweet fantasies attached to meeting someone new because there's always the chance they might have partner potential. But the other side of this is the feeling of dread that boomers frequently have.