Kink is about fantasy, yes, but people also base their play on some very harsh realities... [and it's] no stranger to ideas and activities that are potentially offensive and triggering.
Living outside of the box requires one to have to look a little harder to find like-minded individuals. You have to be more
"Vanilla people" are starting to act a little kinky, and that's a good thing for everyone wondering what's OK in a sexual relationship.
Photographer Daniel Handal documents an underground world in which being yourself means becoming someone else.
I've concluded is that my kinkiness and my depression are related--in that they're of a piece with who I am. I don't get to pick and choose these facets of my identity, so they have to learn to coexist. I try not to play if I'm so depressed that I feel disoriented, or unfocused, or angry with myself.
Consent works the same way in the kink world as it does in the vanilla world. If you don't know what your partner likes or wants, ask. With your words.
Reading through the "we were wrong" headlines, it's clear that the masses are wondering: How could it be that someone who was public and likable and funny and into consent was allegedly raping his coworkers and other women?
I find it beautiful and exciting that my wife is attracted to other genders, and I'm fortunate that she feels the same way about me. For us, this is an integral part of who we are.
I've lived in the middle of Manhattan for the better part of 19 years -- and until recently, "cheap" did a bang-up job of describing the nature, and price, of thrills on that wonderfully welcoming downscale strip of West 14th Street, between Fifth and Seventh Avenues.
Legendary pop star Britney Spears once dedicated a song to lace and leather, and it's no wonder - the trend of combining sweet and sexy has been popular for years, perhaps even centuries.
We should welcome all that psychiatry can do to help those whose desires push them to act in ways that wound others. But
He's creepy. He's that guy who needs a personality overhaul, the dude who's too controlling, too domineering -- out of bed. You want to dominate me in bed? Be my guest. You want to drive? Here are the keys to my clitoris. But don't pull that controlling crap out of bed.
Before the movie came out, we had a list of 10 ways we hoped the movie would improve upon the book. Let's see how it faired below. Then we'll cover the pleasant surprises and less expected disappointments.
There are plenty of things I like about Fifty Shades of Grey. It's a hot romance novel, which is always good, and it has kinky sex in it, which is even better. But E.L. James fell into the classic stereotype by making Christian Grey the dominant one in the relationship.
There are a lot of people who would rather get a good spanking than a box of chocolates for Valentine's Day and I'm all for that. The problem I have with Fifty Shades of Grey is that it's BDSM for Dummies, it's BDSM Lite.
Kink University set out to answer this question by looking at the BDSM, fetish and polyamorous communities of America's largest