I stood there looking down at the little mystery leaf and was filled with wonder. How did this special leaf arrive in this spot, at this time, in my path?
The Effects Of Lesbian Parenting The first of its kind, a new study that compared "adolescent-parent relationships and adolescent
If something happened to me, my three children may not be allowed to experience each other as a family. In our quest to legally define families, it seems this protects the rights of the adults at the expense of the children. Shouldn't they be able to define the "reality" of their own relationships?
"Other Mothers," keep your hearts open. Your job is a tough one and filled with pain. But continuing to open your heart to your children -- no matter how you define "your" -- is well worth the risk.
As an adult, I have come to appreciate the circumstances that made my own adoption necessary. I know now that the greatest gift and sacrifice my mother ever made was the day she signed the papers and "gave me up" for adoption. But what about a child's perspective?
Here are some ideas and examples from my dissolved and reconstituted same-sex-parents-headed family that can help parents in different households avoid feeling like one is "primary" and the other is, well, "other."
In keeping with the holiday, I've thought about some things that I am thankful for - in my personal parenting circumstance and also in our community. What are your experiences this holiday season?
The time is now to extend presumptive parenthood to both members of a lesbian relationship when it can be shown that the child was planned, conceived and welcomed into an intact (even if struggling) relationship.
My romantic assumption was that as women and as lesbians, my ex-partner and I could navigate a breakup more cleanly than a heterosexual couple could, that we could split the kids equally and fairly. So how did I find myself in the role of the secondary, or "other," mother?
Since fighting to be included in the heteronormative model of marriage and then being steamrolled by the heteronormative model of divorce, I've been fighting these systems from the perspective of the "other" mother.