lesbian-parenting

I stood there looking down at the little mystery leaf and was filled with wonder. How did this special leaf arrive in this spot, at this time, in my path?
The Effects Of Lesbian Parenting The first of its kind, a new study that compared "adolescent-parent relationships and adolescent
If something happened to me, my three children may not be allowed to experience each other as a family. In our quest to legally define families, it seems this protects the rights of the adults at the expense of the children. Shouldn't they be able to define the "reality" of their own relationships?
"Other Mothers," keep your hearts open. Your job is a tough one and filled with pain. But continuing to open your heart to your children -- no matter how you define "your" -- is well worth the risk.
As an adult, I have come to appreciate the circumstances that made my own adoption necessary. I know now that the greatest gift and sacrifice my mother ever made was the day she signed the papers and "gave me up" for adoption. But what about a child's perspective?
Here are some ideas and examples from my dissolved and reconstituted same-sex-parents-headed family that can help parents in different households avoid feeling like one is "primary" and the other is, well, "other."
In keeping with the holiday, I've thought about some things that I am thankful for - in my personal parenting circumstance and also in our community. What are your experiences this holiday season?
The time is now to extend presumptive parenthood to both members of a lesbian relationship when it can be shown that the child was planned, conceived and welcomed into an intact (even if struggling) relationship.
My romantic assumption was that as women and as lesbians, my ex-partner and I could navigate a breakup more cleanly than a heterosexual couple could, that we could split the kids equally and fairly. So how did I find myself in the role of the secondary, or "other," mother?
Since fighting to be included in the heteronormative model of marriage and then being steamrolled by the heteronormative model of divorce, I've been fighting these systems from the perspective of the "other" mother.
Answering this for myself required taking an honest look at my own experience of two mothers, one adoptive, one biological. What makes a mother "primary"? What makes a mother real?
I asked Walter to prom a bit late. None of the straight boys in my very tiny high school had come through, so I faced the music and asked my gay friend. "I have to think this over" was his underwhelmed response.
This question is difficult, because it is both personal and political. This feels to me like the sophisticated version of the needling question "but which one is your real mom?" except of course this question, about who gets to be called "Mommy," is more legitimate.
I cannot tell you how many times in any given week I end up stuck between a grownup concept and a kid who wants an explanation that he can understand. How do you explain the difference between family love and romantic love to a kindergartener?
The night Ellen came out, I felt like my family got an invitation to the party. It hadn't occurred to me that we'd been excluded thus far, but now I saw it. The price of inclusion was noticing that all along we hadn't been included.
My mother may continue to cringe at the word "queer," but I invite you to consider the idea that queerness can be a pretty good thing. In the broad sense of the word, every person who has ever gone against social norms and values in order to improve them is queer.
On this Mother's day, I thought it appropriate to share a story about me and my daughter. Here goes!
"When he walked up thinking it was father and mom with the kid, he wasn’t as angry, but then when he figured out it was a
While matters of gender and biology may be relevant to making a child, it is parenting that makes a parent. The ability and the desire to love a child unconditionally has nothing to do with one's gender.
Good news for lesbian parents: a new study has revealed that teens living in homes with two mothers are proving to be more