life after kids
Yes, most of these cost money, but the money is honestly money well spent.
"Life is all about the change."
I am a stay-at-home mom so my days generally encompasses taking care of everyone else. Being a mom and taking care of my family is my absolute number one priority over anything. My children and Mr will always come first, no questions asked. BUT, I am more than that.
On your wedding day as you stand there making vows and commitments in front of family and friends, through no fault of your own, you really have no idea what marriage looks like, how it will feel, the ups and downs you will endure together, and how it will change as the years tick by.
Before I was a mother, I was teaching English in Taipei, driving through Slovenia, taking sake bombs in Japan, sipping absinthe in Paris, dancing on bars in Austin and in bomb shelters in Jerusalem. I even swam with fish in Croatia. Sitting still has never been my thing.
You pushed a human out of your body. It's not likely to look the same. And guess what? Mine doesn't either. Or my Ferrari neighbor's. Or your best friend's. Or your sister's. All the vulvas look different after babies and also they look different from each other. That not just OK, it's normal.
The passenger sitting in front me decides even though he isn't sleeping, he is going to take whatever legal space he can get in economy. My injured child wails from the pain of the seat pushed on her head while my bladder lets loose from the pressure of her cranium in my pelvis.
The dress meant nothing. The flowers meant nothing. The place meant nothing. Marriage is not built on these things. Marriage is built on all the things that come after the wedding. It is built on the ups and the downs. It is built on the past and the present. It is built on the good and the bad.