While making myself smaller was a useful tool to make the daintier people of the world feel more comfortable around me, might it have become me?
An alpha is the individual in a community with the highest rank, most power or highest level of respect. Typically other community members exhibit deference towards the alpha and allow them preferential treatment or control.
However you hold yourself, however you move through space, and however you gesture, your body sends messages back to your brain to make you feel that way.
I would like to build upon one of my favorite TEDTalks of all time by offering some additional ways of using body language to change your life.
External mindfulness holds the key to understanding whether people read you as likeable and reasonable, or annoying and out of touch.
The strongest point Cuddy made in her talk wasn't about the research and discoveries made in the science, but her own inspiring story. The video becomes amazingly emotional as she strategically and masterfully makes herself vulnerable to the audience.
Pay attention to these four areas of your body and you are on your way to being the alpha in your pack.
Are you looking to be a happier, more productive, more successful person? Then the best advice is to spend less effort trying to locate your "authentic" self, in the manner that so many supposed self-help experts prescribe. Instead, learn to embrace the notion of the self as flexible.
The neurons setting our heart racing, our skin to sweating, and our stomach churning, are draped in a network throughout the body cavity next to the organs they control, completely outside the brain and spinal cord.
Modern research on love and attraction suggests that we're not passive creatures, at the mercy of dwindling hormones or fading looks. In the same way that assuming a "power pose" builds our confidence, intentionally engaging in loving, passionate behaviors appears to spark romantic excitement.