By electing Donald Trump to be the 45th President of the United States the American electorate issued "a primal scream," as
Listening is not just about what you hear around you. It's also listening to your inner voice. And it's "listening" to someone's body language and how he or she is expressing him/herself by remaining silent. Much can be heard without anyone saying a word if you are perceptive.
Try it out for a day: be mindful of your moment to moment choices between empathy and judgment--not just for others but for yourself as well. Try seeing from and through the vulnerability parts of yourself and others, and notice where it takes you, inside and out.
Sometimes when we are trying to communicate with another person it can feel like crossing the Grand Canyon. There can be a huge chasm between the message we are intending to send and the message that is actually received. We can even tell someone while delivering our intended message that we aren't criticizing them, or that we aren't trying to hurt their feelings, but they still end up hurt and feeling criticized.
Two people can look at the same situation at the same time yet still see different things. For this reason, among many, humans
It's hard to watch or read the news these days. I can't tell if times are just exponentially worse than they once were or if all the horrible things that were always there are just being constantly thrown in my face every time I connect to WiFi. It's depressing, and I know I'm not the only one who feels this way. Still, I keep consuming, because no good will ever come from ignorance.
Reassuring them might be a way to stretch yourself to reassure yourself as well. If your kids see you coping in an upbeat way they will absorb that manner which will help them believe in you and themselves.
Someday, perhaps, we will look back on Donald Trump and realize that he did us a service, albeit unintentionally. By providing an extreme example--a caricature--of who we might become, he gave us a real wakeup call. But this won't happen until we create the conditions for real conversation.
There are times in life when we are called upon to be comforting but words fail us. Not knowing what to say, we don't pick up the phone or pay a visit when someone we know has suffered a devastating loss or a loved one is enduring an incapacitating illness. We feel guilty.
Dave Kerpen, Founder & CEO of Likeable Local, a social media agency and NY Times best-selling author recently published; "The Art of People: 11 Simple People Skills That Will Get You Everything You Want."
One of the most important things my father did for me while I was growing up was that he spent far more time listening than he did lecturing.