love and marriage
I'm approaching 30, and I've been dating him for over half a decade. We've lived in four cities together, and we share our home, our creative work and our dreams with each other. He's the one, and I plan to marry him. But not today. And even after all the progress we've made in the name of women's independence, I'm still shamed for it.
If we are going to form habits as a couple, why not form good ones?
We don't "do" Valentine's Day. This will horrify some of you. Some of you couldn't care less. And some of you will wholeheartedly support this stance. I have nothing against Valentine's Day. At all. It's just something we've decided not to commit to celebrating, by mutual agreement.
We don't have to understand why someone needs something. We just have to respect that they do. If we want to be in a relationship with them, we have to respect their needs and be willing to meet them to the best of our ability.
I ask my wife to marry me everyday. Or sometimes I thank her for marrying me. Every single day, I make sure that my wife knows that I love being married to her. It has been almost ten years since our first date, we've been married for over six years and I plan to let her know every day for the rest of my life that I want her to be my wife.
I know that my self-esteem decline interferes with me and my husband's intimacy. I know I don't feel attractive and that's why I'm not attracted. So I will continue to pray that I rediscover myself, that I rediscover my femininity, and that I gain the motivation to make myself feel and look beautiful again.
So what is a "Relationship Pioneer" and how does anyone stay together happily for 10, 20, or 30-plus years? I think a 'Relationship Pioneer' is all of us that are not willing to throw away our 'foundational relationship' because we need something more added over time: whatever THAT more is.
My biggest regret is that I didn't cherish my old, retired machine, until it was too late. Going forward, I will refrain from making trivial complaints about the new machine. I won't push the machine to do things it shouldn't do. Instead, I will appreciate all of the things it can do.
What if 'Happily Ever After After' was boring and didn't come 'naturally'? Have you noticed that nothing ever comes after 'Happily Ever After' in fairy tales? And monotony works fabulously for lots of people and yet the biggest problem couples and individuals have is the loss of desire.