As women age, they often harbor negative feelings about sex.
It's hard to feel turned on when people are being flooded with images of fear, violence and feeling like there is a very deep threat to people's personal safety. People who have experienced various forms of sexual trauma are feeling triggered and shut down.
Many women think that they are still too young to be entering the menopause phase, when in reality they are not. "Sex and low libido"... bad press comes to mind as well as the way the media portrays a women past her prime, it is no wonder as women we dread entering the menopause.
For women today, it's all about hard bodies, tightened abs and guarding our emotional and physical selves. And that makes a lot of sense for a world that lives in combat. The only thing is that it doesn't make a lot of sense for living a life of full sensuality.
Friends worried that I was turning into a sex addict but I knew it was a phase. After an unhappy marriage, I wanted to distance myself from my own emotions and immerse myself in the world of erotic pleasure. If you're going to be a total hedonist, there's no better time to go for it then in your 40s.
With the phenomenon of Fifty Shades of Grey, Rihanna's S&M and other popular representations, Dominant/Submissive fantasies
I share stories of women using a mindful approach to find their natural sexual vitality. Desire is a hot-house flower; it's complicated and high maintenance. It's not amenable to pat solutions because desire is greater than the lust of our biology; it's an endeavor of the spirit, of our innermost voice longing to shine.
Many times, the special sauce is found in doing something really big together that also allows for space. What many mid-lifers
We often joke about low libido, but for many women HSDD is a serious condition. It is up to you and your healthcare professional to determine which protocol is best for your personal health needs.
The controversy about flibanserin is in fact magnificent, and frankly, the entire point. We must talk openly about sexuality and sexual concerns to improve them, personally for one woman at a time, but also uniformly to embrace female sexuality as a vastly larger societal allowance.
I know that my self-esteem decline interferes with me and my husband's intimacy. I know I don't feel attractive and that's why I'm not attracted. So I will continue to pray that I rediscover myself, that I rediscover my femininity, and that I gain the motivation to make myself feel and look beautiful again.
One in five men has an extremely low sex drive, contrary to the cultural stereotype. What happens to your relationship when it's your husband, and if you do want sex, what can you do about it?
-- Age 33, Worcester, Massachusetts 2. "I felt like something was wrong with me, and sometimes still do." "Sometimes not
As a sex coach who works primarily with women, the lion's share of my work is helping women understand that they are not broken, and helping them find their own individual portal to their unique erotic expression.
Now that Ellison is in a healthy relationship -- and engaged -- she says her libido is just fine. Watch the clip above for