What is painfully true is that as you age, if you give up on sex, then sex will give up on you.
As women age, they often harbor negative feelings about sex.
It's hard to feel turned on when people are being flooded with images of fear, violence and feeling like there is a very deep threat to people's personal safety. People who have experienced various forms of sexual trauma are feeling triggered and shut down.
Many women think that they are still too young to be entering the menopause phase, when in reality they are not. "Sex and low libido"... bad press comes to mind as well as the way the media portrays a women past her prime, it is no wonder as women we dread entering the menopause.
What is true for all of us, is at some point in our erotic lives we will struggle. The kicker is that we get to choose how we handle that struggle and I believe that we all have the power to have an incredibly, delicious erotic life.
For women today, it's all about hard bodies, tightened abs and guarding our emotional and physical selves. And that makes a lot of sense for a world that lives in combat. The only thing is that it doesn't make a lot of sense for living a life of full sensuality.
Friends worried that I was turning into a sex addict but I knew it was a phase. After an unhappy marriage, I wanted to distance myself from my own emotions and immerse myself in the world of erotic pleasure. If you're going to be a total hedonist, there's no better time to go for it then in your 40s.
I share stories of women using a mindful approach to find their natural sexual vitality. Desire is a hot-house flower; it's complicated and high maintenance. It's not amenable to pat solutions because desire is greater than the lust of our biology; it's an endeavor of the spirit, of our innermost voice longing to shine.
And sometimes, the people that turn us on the most are not the best fit for getting our emotional needs met. What most of
We often joke about low libido, but for many women HSDD is a serious condition. It is up to you and your healthcare professional to determine which protocol is best for your personal health needs.