This woman is tired of black bodies and hairstyles being sold as the latest trend.

I learned about shame, and how it silences our true selves. And more importantly, that we all have it -- so many people share the same fetishes, need the same conditions to feel safe, to get excited, to achieve pleasure, to feel their fantasies are fulfilled.

We need make our marriages more exciting. We need to make them more passionate. Do our wives really need to find this passion only in a fantasy novel about domination? Do our husbands need to ruin their lives by signing on to Ashley Madison and getting caught, when all they were going to find anyway was another guy?