Is the male-female friendship something the next generation has figured out better than we have?Bob and I have been best friends for 20 years and we both know how lucky we are to have our friendship. It developed organically and with permission from our spouses.

Thank you for being a friend.

Flipping from a friend to lover doesn't work in a text or email. It may seem like the easy way out, but don't do it. You will fail. They need to either see your face or feel the warmth and conviction in your voice to make your statement work.

And then I got her text. As it turned out, I'm great. There was no physical attraction. She felt badly that things turned out this way, but I had grown to mean a lot to her and she hoped we could continue to hang out. It was up to me to decide.

I have a manfriend. If we were a rom-com, he'd be the Harry to my Sally. This week as he turns 30, I reflected back over the years of being in each other's lives from kids running around an elementary school playground to two adults trying to make our way in the world.