It's easy to get caught up in your routine and chores every day, but don't let it consume 100% of your life. It can be pretty stressful at times, but if you take it one day at a time and try to roll with the punches, you may be able to avoid stress a little better.
The moment I acknowledged how deep-down-to-my bones tired I was of seeing myself only as a mum, that paralyzing fatigue started ebbing away. When I let go of the guilt I'd been carrying around for feeling that way, the energy started to come back.
The problem with my "me time" coming in a bottle is that it eventually took much more than it gave. As my daughter approached adolescence and my tolerance to wine increased I realized that my "me time" was taking over our family time.
What I realized pretty quickly amongst all of my emotional and physical turmoil was that I desperately needed to care for myself just as much as or even more than I was caring for my hubby.
These eight strategies really helped me this year when I was lost and low and extremely out of flow. With the silly season nearly here I'd like to share these with you so that if you are feeling worried, anxious, exhausted or simply out of sorts you can delve into them, to help you shift some of that lost-ness.
So... consider it your duty and responsibility to take care of yourself as much as you take care of others. To replenish
Some mornings my thoughts may go to one of the kids, or a project I'm working on. Sometimes I might think of an old friend or try to solve a problem. Other times I only focus on the task at hand. After I'm done, I put my make up away, open the bathroom door, and allow the craziness of my day to begin.
It's all different now and in some ways it's better because, man, have I missed showering. But as I assemble my day of exercising, working and generally keeping busy, I realize it will probably never be quite as full as it was before. For better and for worse.
Some people use the word momtrepreneur to describe me starting a business, but I stop them because simply entrepreneur will do. Yes, being a Mom is a title that brings me extreme happiness, but it is only one title that identifies me.
I'd like to say that my experience at the naked Korean spa was relaxing, but I think that a more accurate description would be that it was interesting. Interesting to see so many women comfortable in their own skin.
Before I had kids, I just didn't think about self-care very often. I didn't have to: When I wasn't at work, my time was my own. If I needed to sleep, exercise, or hang out with my friends or husband, I just did it. That all changed after I became a mother almost seven years ago.
--Lindsay Holmes More from Happify: Science-Based Activities And Games For Reducing Stress Infographic: The Science Behind
I've dabbled into the "selfless mom" mentality over the years and it never felt good. In fact, the more I obsessed about my mommy role, the more batty I started to feel.
I'm not suggesting you put in earplugs and take a bubble bath while your baby cries in the other room. Instead, I say we stop pretending to be robots who don't require sleep, breaks or help.
Poll any of the moms in the room with you or on your social media what they would like to get for Mother's Day and you will start to see overwhelmingly similar answers that will boil down to some form of "time alone" or "me time."
So, instead of putting a Band-aid on, I am pulling one off. I am doing something I have been too afraid to do... go.
I soon realized that striving to simply become wealthy would not only make me unhappy, but also cause me to lose sight of a lot of things that are important to me.
For a second, I think about just leaving. Running away. How long would it be until they noticed? Where would I even go? I don't leave, of course, but today would be a great day to take off. Today, I am drowning in parenthood.
You look forward to filling your tank full of gas because it means you get out of the car and away from the kids for at least five minutes.
Just because I don't smile doesn't mean that I am unhappy. It just means that I am thinking about something that I consider important. It means that I am trying to find some space for myself in a public place.