Up until my sixties, I was one lucky woman. I experienced no "ouches." And then the rains came pouring down. I didn't know
We see ourselves, like my dumpling self-image, as rounded, benign and invisible. Up to this point, we were following a map
For me, Kyokushin is the mindset that reaches outside the dojo and has helped me battle life's challenges for the past 20 years. Sure, I've learned discipline, control and focus. But the biggest lesson Kyokushin taught me was incredibly simple:
"Skinnygirl® isn't just a drink. It's a lifestyle. You know what you want out of life, ladies - we're just here to show you
I think with any big life change expected or unexpected, there is always a period of adjustment when we will be uncomfortable, and in some cases terrified. Nothing lasts forever. This is a stage and it will pass.
As a culture, we skim over menopause as a subject because it's simply not sexy. Men can still age with rugged grace and women are still condescended to as they go gray. Many aging women are, on some level, embarrassed to not be young anymore.
I recently attended a women's networking group. One of the issues that came up for discussion was the tendency for us, as women, to doubt ourselves and our abilities, even when it's been objectively shown that we are quite capable and competent.
We need to see more of this.
I have learned over the years though that 'nice' is good, but 'too nice' is not. 'Too nice' is the person who doesn't like to ruffle feathers. 'Too nice' is the person who is afraid to set boundaries. 'Too nice' is the person who is afraid to say no. 'Too nice' is the person who I used to be (and still am, sometimes).
I want women to know to just freeze their eggs if they want to. And for younger women, take a minute when you're in your 20's or 30's and just freeze them if you think having kids later in life is important to you. Because life happens - and sometimes things you think will line up, don't.