I meet my friend Geraldine at a hip, local eatery in the heart of Abbot Kinney in Venice Beach. Over our poached kale and egg salads with a side of chickpeas I notice my firecracker friend is uncharacteristically glum.
The best is yet to come.
This is what I would like all those to the left of 30 to know. You will get older too. Yes, really. You will get gray hair and skin creases and you will still want to have sex. And you will not care at all what young people think.
Even as a teen, I found myself gravitating towards older, professional, rather bossy men -- and them to me. The thought of being a high-class hooker excited me, then horrified me the next moment. I was educated, I was a feminist, I was a social progressive: how, then, could I be turned on by the thought of serving some imposing man in a suit?
It seems, pushing 50, that I've turned a corner where sex has to be taken more seriously. Apparently I'm going to have to suit up, cleat up and step up my game in order to stay on the field. Case in point. The other night I stopped my husband, Henry, in the midst of our mating ritual.
Huff Post Live recently tackled the topic of midlife sex, based on a blog post by Marcy Miller, who wrote about being fixed up with a man named Fred described as the "catch of the century." After the third date, Fred told her that when in a relationship, "he expected to have sex 300 times a year," and this was why he had recently broken up with his fiancee.
Striving for the Making Love type of sexual partnership keeps your relationship alive and growing. Couples who build such a relationship feel enduring connection and sustained passion.