These approaches are not a panacea. They don't always work. It's like training a wild mustang to become a saddle horse: over and over again, you bring gentleness and firmness, you rein in fear and fire and encourage peaceful ease.
Are you thinking too much? When your thought processes are tired, it doesn't feel good. You're not relaxed, and probably
When I meet fellow mindfulness teachers I sometimes ask, "What do you think the difference is between mindfulness and Buddhism? If the teacher starts prattling on about brain states and alpha waves and prefrontal cortexs and amygdalas, I will wish him or her the best and quietly excuse myself.
With time and a little practice, you will find yourself "speaking wisely" without consciously thinking about it. You might be amazed at the powerful, assertive ways you can communicate within the frame of these six guidelines.
Clinging is different from healthy desire, where we have wholesome values, aims, purposes, aspiration, and commitments -- without being attached to the results.
There is no doubt that brain research is one of the most exciting frontiers in medicine, and our knowledge doubles every few years. The problem isn't about the data, but about overstepping and making too may claims about what the data are telling us about ourselves.
It's very good news that you are not your brain, because when your mind finds its true power, the result is healing, inspiration, insight, self-awareness, discovery, curiosity, and quantum leaps in personal growth.
Remind yourself that you can act in competent, honorable and successful ways even when there is no sense of pressure.
In its own quiet way, ordinary friendliness takes a stand that is almost subversive these days: that the world has many more opportunities than threats, that most people want the best for others.
Compassion is natural; you don't have to force it; just open to the difficulty, the struggle, the stress, the impact of events, the sorrow and strain in the other person.