“Partner” sounds businesslike. “Lover” sounds queasy. What’s the solution?
I often make plans with friends for a night in the future, and then as the day approaches, if there's been radio silence on the event, you start to wonder, is it still a date? Or you make what you thought were very "soft" plans with someone, only to be thrown off when they text "Where you are? We're here." You think, "But... I never got a confirmation! I didn't know it was actually happening."
We believe we can do everything ourselves because we have Google. Because if we desire human interaction, we have our online dating inbox. And when we don't, when we'd rather not make small talk with a guy at a bar, we just say no, thanks and binge on "House of Cards."
A recent study shows that men no longer prefer a beautiful bimbo on their arm, but instead lust after 'female earners' and career-oriented women. Does this mean trophy wives have finally retired, or will the high-powered trend fade out?
People have always augmented their real-world experiences with "devices," be they cards, newspapers, books, cameras, or tour guides. There is no reason to become alarmed about this activity now.
Of course, nothing replaces the closeness, feeling of personal warmth, the human touch, and overall experience that a face-to-face relationship brings. It is when the in-person experience is not available that usurping the power of technology can be the next best thing.
It's time to hold the institution of marriage up for closer inspection; to analyze why it fails as often as it succeeds and why there seems to be an epidemic of extramarital affairs as a solution to dealing with our complex human needs and emotions.