I admitted that I didn't want the intimate, tender lovemaking that typified my bedroom. Instead, I found books and movies where women are sexually ravished and even aggressively taken exciting. And I judged myself for it.
By the time we're in our 50s and beyond, our kids are grown and out the door, our careers are established, we're reasonably financially stable, and life isn't such a struggle. Simply put, we're more relaxed about most things and sex is often more fun. On that note, I've compiled my personal list of the 12 reasons sex is better after 50.
Approaching the venue in south London, I berated myself. Why on earth had I volunteered to strip off my clothes in front of people I'd never met before? In broad, pitiless daylight? With faltering steps, I persuaded myself to continue, although doubts continued to raise their ugly heads.
A few weeks ago I sat in a poolside cabana at The Avalon, a mid-century jewel of a hotel in Beverly Hills, eating dinner with a man who told me: 'To you, sex is art.' I was both flattered and amused. Amused because we hadn't even slept together -- he was referring to my blog.
When my 20-year marriage ended a year and a half ago, I knew I needed to stay single for awhile. But because my ex-husband and I had been so mismatched sexually, and because I had no intention of being a nun until I fell in love again, I was eager to have sex.
Some time ago I wrote a blog concerning sex and menopause. Comments in response to that blog ran the gamut. Some women expressed frustration with their bodies. Some felt betrayed by their husbands or partners now that their physical appearance had changed. And still others were blissfully happy that they had ended (by choice) their own sexual chapter and were looking forward to using their energy in other areas such as work, family and friends.
In 10 years of writing about boomer sex, dating, and relationships, date coaching, and reading thousands of readers' comments the notion that many of my generation are no longer sexual is hysterical nonsense seeking validation. An article like this is okay if it's meant to reinforce the importance of sex, but not okay when if it's meant to paint boomers as sexually dead.
Here are four bedtime habits that may be killing your sex life. Have your own ideas? Let us know in comments.
Not everyone who showed up at the sex activists' conference was pierced, tattooed, and draped in leather. It was an edgy assembly for sure, but many of the men and women making their way to workshops at the recent CatalystCon East sported a classic, casual style.
Although other studies have found that husbands got more sex if they did more housework, implying that sex was the payoff