What was I thinking when I thought I could picture a life with my daughter before I met her? Did I really think just because I was her mother I could shape her into exactly the child/girl/woman I wanted her to be?
Courtney, 22, calls her mom, Michelle, selfish and irresponsible, and claims she puts alcohol and men before her own children
Happy Mother's Day! Yara Shahidi (tag) and her mom make a super dope mommy-daughter duo we all love and admire.
Dating is difficult at best. Finding a great companion is no easy task. Mothers and daughters who are close tend to discuss relationships. Communication is great. But what often transpires is sometimes more frustrating and destructive than harmonious and helpful.
At the age of 14, she became the youngest person to swim all the way across Lake Ontario. The 52-kilometer journey (a whopping
Her journey became full of unconventional, hit (and miss) and score, and rich life lessons that were indispensable to me, and although were not generated from her 9-5 job, were always easily transferred to mine.
Grace is defined as effortless poise, beauty and charm; it is also described as the unmerited favor and blessing of God. In my personal lexicon, giving and receiving grace is also about letting others -- and myself -- off the hook. Maybe that's why my girl turns cartwheels in grocery stores, speaks her mind without fuss or filter, and lives and loves off the hook and in full color.
My daughter does not behave the way she behaves because she wants to hurt anyone, she's not crying out for attention, nor is she trying to be manipulative, and I'm not even sure she is just being a possessive 'terrible two.' She is simply a 2-year-old who suffers from intense emotions.
There's something compelling about the narrative of the Difficult Mother. You know, the mother you love but who has never fully understood you or approved of you or validated your life. The mother you grew distant from, only to reconnect with later in life, perhaps after the birth of your child or the death of a loved one or a sign of your mother's oncoming frailty.
I asked my mother to share some of the wellness wisdom she's learned from a long line of long-lifers.