The scariest aspect of anxiety is its residency in my brain. It is not a darker side of me, or a reflection of me. It is
We make our own misery. Life is hard enough, but we make things worse by exaggerating our failings and piling up proof of our deficiencies. In a particularly bad mood, we can slip into a litany of missed opportunities, slip-ups, failures of nerve -- while giving ourselves hardly any credit.
Back in the years of high school gym when they had us run one mile, I was the student struggling to complete it - lungs burning and finishing last. It's not that I wasn't active. I played volleyball and tennis in high school - but I told myself that I wasn't a runner.
Negative self-talk during divorce is the result of a temporary lack of self-esteem that occurs while going through a divorce. I can remember feeling like this weak, exhausted person I didn't even recognize. I lacked self-worth, confidence and self-love. Basically, I forgot about any good qualities I had.
GPS for the Soul
Changing the way you talk to yourself changes everything. Here are steps we can take to teach our children to avoid falling into the trap of self-defeating inner criticism.
To expose and start reforming your Inner Mean Girl, the next step is to start noticing when she shows up and tries to hijack your mind, body and reactions.
Despite the fact that I built my career in front of the camera, I truly believe that if you don't have internal peace and happiness and come from a good place, your inner discontent will always come to the surface.
You just never know what is possible when you give up toxic habits and choose to support yourself instead of sabotage yourself. That's what we call self-love!
When we feel inadequate, it can be a lot easier to tear someone else down to our level than to acknowledge our own insecurities and figure out how to move forward.
Think of talking to yourself as a tool to coach yourself through a challenge, or to narrate your own experiences to yourself. In any case, treat yourself with respect and you just may find you enjoy your own company.
When you don't love yourself, you're often harder on you than on others. When you goof up, it's good to think about how you'd reassure a friend who's done what you did. You'd be kind, wouldn't you? Well do that for you, too!
Your negative soundtracks have likely been playing for many years. It doesn't help that we are surrounded by a culture that supports negative self-talk so this will be an ongoing practice. The way we talk to ourselves is a habit that can be changed with awareness and willingness.
She suggests a technique called possible thinking, which involves reaching for neutral thoughts about the situation and naming
If you, too, struggle with a restless, anxious mind, you've probably noticed that the chatter can be especially negative and annoying at the most inopportune moments.
The choice is always yours -- you can keep listening to the Self-Talk cautioning you against pursuing what matters most or you can listen to your Soul-Talk reminding that you already possess that which you seek.
How does negative self talk hamper your best efforts to lose weight or, for that matter, get a job, run three miles, begin a new relationship, even move through your day in a peaceful fashion?