The scariest aspect of anxiety is its residency in my brain. It is not a darker side of me, or a reflection of me. It is
We make our own misery. Life is hard enough, but we make things worse by exaggerating our failings and piling up proof of our deficiencies. In a particularly bad mood, we can slip into a litany of missed opportunities, slip-ups, failures of nerve -- while giving ourselves hardly any credit.
Back in the years of high school gym when they had us run one mile, I was the student struggling to complete it - lungs burning and finishing last. It's not that I wasn't active. I played volleyball and tennis in high school - but I told myself that I wasn't a runner.
Negative self-talk during divorce is the result of a temporary lack of self-esteem that occurs while going through a divorce. I can remember feeling like this weak, exhausted person I didn't even recognize. I lacked self-worth, confidence and self-love. Basically, I forgot about any good qualities I had.
Changing the way you talk to yourself changes everything. Here are steps we can take to teach our children to avoid falling into the trap of self-defeating inner criticism.
To expose and start reforming your Inner Mean Girl, the next step is to start noticing when she shows up and tries to hijack your mind, body and reactions.
Despite the fact that I built my career in front of the camera, I truly believe that if you don't have internal peace and happiness and come from a good place, your inner discontent will always come to the surface.
You just never know what is possible when you give up toxic habits and choose to support yourself instead of sabotage yourself. That's what we call self-love!
When we feel inadequate, it can be a lot easier to tear someone else down to our level than to acknowledge our own insecurities and figure out how to move forward.
Think of talking to yourself as a tool to coach yourself through a challenge, or to narrate your own experiences to yourself. In any case, treat yourself with respect and you just may find you enjoy your own company.