While the glow of Valentine's Day is wearing off and you head toward relationship hibernation, think about how you can institute the above behaviors and set up new patterns for your relationship that will result in better communication, an enhanced sense of closeness and, most likely, more physical intimacy.

"Oh, my God. Are you serious?" That's a reaction I often get when people hear how I accidentally discovered, at the age of twenty, that I was adopted.

While it is impossible to prevent stale moments from occurring, it is possible to strengthen the substance of a relationship in a way that minimizes their impact and diminishes their frequency to a significant degree.

If you look deeply at yourself and you really try to feel for your partner, it may be that compassion will let you forgive. And if you can, if you can love each other enough to take it as part of the waft and weave of your marriage, then you've got something pretty strong.