I remember, at age 9, I declared I would never forget what it felt like to be 9. Each year after, I reminded myself.....I will never be one of those adults who can't remember how it feels to be a kid.I often felt, misunderstood.I often felt out of control.

There is no perfect way to learn how to become a stepmom. There isn't a template or "How-To" book with all of the answers. Figuring out everything you need to know before you become a stepmom is impossible.

Chaos seems to reign inside and outside our home, and at times inside and outside our body. And that creates a turbulent energy which I believe is impossible to sustain long term.

If you are feeling overwhelmed by everything you have to get done, it is time for a to-do list do over!

Below are the five steps to transform a long, overwhelming list of things into a high performing task-list. A note about format: You'll probably have to give up your pen and paper list for this one.