Although there was no physical violence in our relationship, my ex-husband and I were unable to communicate in a respectful manner and were in constant competition for who was the better parent. This led me to choose parallel parenting over co-parenting. And here are five reasons why,
Do. Not. Engage.
Regardless of the underlying meaning, or good intentions of the speaker, the end result still places an unfair burden on a child, who is now left holding the bag of secrets.
When working with a client who is married to, or separating from a narcissist, therapists need to invert the goal of traditional therapy.
Divorce is terrible enough, but to have a divorce that is so hellish as to make co-parenting impossible is another kind of terrible altogether.