There were many moments I'd think to myself I deserved to "not be loved" because of what my ex said and did. Instead, I chose
Fearing that her sisters will be subjected to further abuse and traumatizing Parental Alienation "therapy" (often termed
This summer, Judge Gorcyca shocked the world when she berated the Tsimhoni children (ages 9, 10, and 14), compared them to the disciples of Charles Manson, and sent them to juvenile detention for refusing to see their father who they claim is abusive.
It might seem drastic for a network to hide children whose allegations of abuse have been ignored in court, but it is infinitely more disturbing that children would feel that running away is their only escape from abuse.
Always feeling like the bad kid growing up, Colin felt everything was his fault. "My father was abusive to my mother. He was always angry. She was always crying. That is all I remember of my childhood.
The sanity of an adult who chose not to speak to someone they feared and rejected would not be so easily questioned, but Parental Alienation Syndrome pathologizes the child and discredits his/her feelings, beliefs, memories, and experiences.
The space of time sandwiched between Mother's Day and Father's Day can bring unique anguish for people whose children have become alienated from them through a high conflict divorce.
It's important for all divorced parents to reflect on their relationship with their former spouse and how it may be subtly or overtly affecting the emotional and psychological well-being of their children.
Children derive security from parental love, support and protection. Even after divorce, if the children feel both parents are still there for them -- participating in their lives and providing love and guidance -- they can thrive.
Parental gatekeeping is not an everyday word intact or separated families use but it has a very real impact and import on child custody cases. Are laws against reckless or malicious, restrictive gatekeeping overdue or is this a solution looking for a problem?
While there is never a one-size-fits all answer to relationship questions, I'm sharing my response with you as a perspective worth considering.