parenting grown kids

You want to spend more time with them, but they’re always too busy. What’s going on? And how can you fix it?
When they went off to college, you turned their rooms into your home office, gym, or (wo)man cave. Now they're back, maybe just for a pit stop on the way to real life, but they're not the same kids who left and you're all aware that even though the rules and roles have changed, it's not clear what the new ones are -- yours or theirs.
I look at my daughter's face and see barely a whisper of the little girl who once reached for me with chubby hands and a baby toothed grin -- her nails are manicured, her teeth are straight and white. Her face is now all cheekbones and eyeliner. The slumped, awkward adolescent has become a tall, confident adult who moves easily in the world without me.
It turns out that my very odd upbringing ironically may have prepared me for the next phase of parenting -- parenting adult children.