Parents of transgender kids
We don’t decide who we are inside. We just are.
I have long since learned that fitting in for a kid (or adult) doesn't mean being the same as everyone else. It means being accepted for who you are.
For transgender people, claiming our authentic gender identity is very challenging. For children, that's especially true. Our voices are silenced very early.
Ultimately the age of dinosaurs will pass; their fossils will be discovered by future anthropologist-archeologists to be scrutinized, dissected, and viewed as oddities whose ideas will seem curious for their naiveté.
Bruce wasn't impressed by the school's lesson plan, arguing that reading the book to students was an example of "the projection
She listened politely as I shared Sam's latest trials and tribulations. When I paused to catch my breath, she pointed out my neglect in a way only a dear friend could, "It's good to hear about Sam, but you have another child, too... how is Josie?"
I've been asked many times before if I fear that my son will "change his mind." What if he "decides he wants to be a girl again"? What if I made a mistake by allowing him to transition at such a young age? I know that without walking a mile in my shoes, it's hard to understand. So let's pretend my child wasn't born to be transgender.
After writing a blog debunking myths and misperceptions about transgender children, I was inundated with messages from parents of transgender children thanking me for it. I spoke with eight parents in detail, looking for what patterns emerged from their narratives. What I found was both amazing and heartbreaking, all at the same time.
The Haywards were conservative Mormons who were not sure how to respond to their child when she came to them, confused that she felt like two people -- the boy she saw in the mirror and the girl she knew herself to be.
This week I talked with filmmaker Alexia Kosmider about her new documentary, TransJourney, which follows Sandra on her cross-country journey to share in the life of her child, formerly her son, now her "new" daughter Annabelle.