"When you’re a people-pleaser, you unconsciously wear a facade of niceness that hides your true feelings from your family, colleagues, friends, lovers."
Tips on setting boundaries and honoring your own needs.
Being out of integrity has pretty serious consequences for our happiness, and for our relationships. Here's what happens when we aren't being authentic.
No, what do YOU want to do?
Each one of us comes here with a purpose -- a divine purpose to shine our light in the world. To be all that we are meant to be and live a purpose driven, love-centered life. It starts with accepting and loving all that you innately are by sharing your genuine self with the world no matter what others think.
If there is one phrase that really bothers me no end, it is the words "What will people think." I heard those words a lot growing up and even as a teenager it didn't sound right or fair that everything I did depended on what people would think.
Growing up in the 1960s, the discipline my parents meted out was cerebral rather than physical. If I became too demanding or too agitated, either my mother or my father would admonish me, mid-tantrum, using a quietly powerful string of words: 'Stop being so selfish,' they would say.
What people pleasers should realize is that they face serious risks. They overcommit their time which creates emotional anxiety. People pleasers feel they have not been true to their feelings and then they become angry with themselves which creates internal stress.
You've probably suspected for a while that you're a People Pleaser. Every time you go out with that friend you no longer really want to keep in touch with. Or every time you agree to babysit your cousin's dog (even though you're not much of a fur-lover yourself). Or whatever this scenario involves for you.