Here are five go-to phrases that every people-pleaser should learn right now:
4) I easily divert my people-pleasing tendencies. Uncovering how you want to feel is one of the steps in my 12 week program
A well-timed yes can expand our world in beautiful and unexpected ways. But I am writing now to espouse the power of another simple word: no.
What does it mean to be a People Pleaser? Well, as a recovering People Pleaser myself, I can tell you. People Pleasers have an almost insatiable need to be liked by everyone. If you are a People Pleaser, you might say "yes" to too many things, whether it be at work or in your personal life.
Do you struggle to follow your heart because you fear disappointing other people? Does it seem what others want from you is rarely what you want for yourself? Do you feel doomed to make decisions that will disappoint someone no matter how hard you try?
I coach and mentor women who live double lives. From the outside, they appear happy with their successful careers. They are making their way up the corporate ladder, connecting with the right people, and adding high-profile accomplishments to their resumes. Looking at their lives from the outside, you'd believe they are living the dream.
So what can us people pleasers do about this, you ask? Well, there are a few things...
When we put our "good model citizen" mask on, we often act out of integrity and compromise our true nature -- which is a huge price to pay.