If you have lost any of these, it's time to get them back!Don't make something more important than you. 

Ten years is a long time, and in some ways I feel I wasted the last year feeling so sad about a connection that was gone long ago with someone I never felt fully appreciated me. I struggle not to feel that I wasted the last 10 years of my life in that relationship, though I am grateful I did not stay for 20.