The author started sharing her own experiences in an abusive relationship through tweets, using the hashtag #WhyIStayed. So
Every Monday morning, "Alex" and I met for breakfast at our favorite dive in Harvard Square. I would notice bruises and cuts on his face, arms, and legs, but I assumed that the black-and-blue marks were par for the course for a guy who played scrimmage football on the weekends.
'It's (Just) the Way That I Love You': Intimate Partner Violence and Abuse in Same-Sex Relationships (Part 5)
It's time to focus on the decision to heal. First, though, let's recap what this atrocious, demeaning and potentially life-threatening behavior really is.
'It's (Just) the Way That I Love You': Intimate Partner Violence and Abuse in Same-Sex Relationships (Part 4)
It's now time to demonstrate how the victim can make his or her "great escape." But first, let's recap what this atrocious, demeaning and potentially life-threatening behavior really is.
'It's (Just) the Way That I Love You': Intimate Partner Violence and Abuse in Same-Sex Relationships (Part 3)
So what is the complete cycle of IPV/A? According to Segal and Smith, this behavior falls into a common pattern, which begins with abuse and ends with the setup.
'It's (Just) the Way That I Love You': Intimate Partner Violence and Abuse in Same-Sex Relationships (Part 1)
I'm passionate about this issue because it's happened to me, and to others I've known. After Alonzo assaulted me one last time, I fought back. And with assistance from my brother-in-law, a cop, I made my "great escape." Finally I entered counseling. I was lucky.
Digital abuse and harassment threatens the psychological and physical well-being of many, many teen boyfriends and girlfriends every day. And the scariest part is that these kids rarely ask anyone for help, even their friends.
According to the Center for Disease Control, teen dating violence happens more than you may think. Anyone, regardless of education, race, and age, is susceptible to abuse.
I've written about how the pressure to live up to my mother's expectations led me to struggle with suicide after I came out. What I have not talked about is the link I see between the overzealous reprimands I received as a child and my adult choices of violent, co-dependent partners.
Deeply closeted, we did our best to disguise our relationship. That tension only contributed to what became an abusive situation. In my codependent state, I rationalized her private rage even as she threw things at me: it was my fault; I shouldn't have answered her that way.
Because teenage years are difficult (and secretive) enough as it is, there are warning signs that every parent and teacher can and should look for.
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