What I hear quite often among my audience are the questions, "How do I know what I value? How do I know if I'm with the right
What we don't see is two people who love each other, come up against the foibles of being human, and work through them to
Bah, I say. My niece and her boyfriend, like the highly intelligent, sensitive, thoughtful women and men who find their way
I often receive questions from courses members and comments on my site on this topic of "relapses," and since I received
The turnaround happened for me when I consciously oriented toward a mindset of hope. That didn't meant that I buried my head
Whatever we water will grow. If we want the thoughts to stop growing, we must stop watering them, change the channel in our mind, and learn to focus our energy on what truly needs our attention. This is how we grow a different, and more peaceful, garden in our minds.
That's why anxiety is a game of whack-a-mole: if you whack down one mole (thought) without addressing it from the root, another will quickly appear in its place.
If we act on every thought or feeling that darts through mind or heart we will be as untamed as a toddler. By contrast, when we learn to train the mind and discipline the heart, we learn to act from our values and commitments.
You know that saying about putting on your own oxygen mask first? This is so important whenever you're dealing with a partner, even if they don't suffer from anxiety.
The best thing to do when you're involved with someone who is not giving you what you need or deserve is end the dynamic and the relationship for the time being.