It might be the opposite of what you'd expect -- or want -- to do.
To the extent that we are mirrored, encouraged and acknowledged for our achievements and our creative pursuits, we are unified within ourselves. To the degree that we are perceived through a distorted mirror, we are torn asunder and may search for approval at a cost to our real self and creativity.
Taking responsibility does not mean casting blame upon yourself, or piling on the guilt for finding yourself in a particular circumstance- neither of those reactions are beneficial and they aren't accurate assessments of what it means to claim your power in any particular situation.
It's o.k. to be sad, even very, very sad. Sadness, like anger, is a very fine emotion. But, like anger, not all of us are comfortable feeling it or being in the immediate vicinity of someone else who is experiencing it.
It's the least we can do.
Remember that broken crayons still color.
Bad things have great timing, and on the day of my birthday, I got my first insult. I was entering a classroom to give something
"Got a message for all you kids out there ... Give up on your dreams."