This epidemic over 35 years old. It's our history, our culture, and our politics. It is incidental to our lives. Living in fear is agonizing and exhausting. No one should have to live that way. We can do better for our community.
Back in my day, it was a lot tougher and riskier to find someone who wanted to have sex with us. There were no apps like Grindr for gay hookups, and we had to resort to all sorts of crazy behaviors to first discover, and then fulfill our desires.
What is the world coming to, you may think, when a hook-up app goes socially responsible? The answer is "deadly."
As the expression goes, if you've got it, flaunt it. I now do so, without vain-shame, and the next man who tells me about his size fixation should be prepared for a big surprise. Whether or not that makes me a prick is up to you.
As Valentine's Day approaches, and you find yourself single, as I am, you might find yourself looking online for "the one." As the Founder of SCRUFF, one of the largest gay dating apps in the world, I'm regularly asked if it's realistic that guys can find real love and long lasting relationships on apps.
You start out after dusk, determined that perfect catch is, literally, right around the corner.
"He hates himself. He genuinely hates himself."
U.S. Air Force Captain Anthony Interrante, 34, refused to let a Middle East deployment stop him from riding in this year's AIDS/LifeCycle or from finishing the 545-mile ride as one of the top fundraisers. How does a critical-care flight nurse serving in Afghanistan raise more than $59,000 to fight HIV? "Easy," he says. "I mostly used Grindr and Scruff."
In the gay world, many of us seem to be looking for the next best thing - all while neglecting the fact that all we ever wanted and all we ever needed was potentially right next to us.
The campaign by SCRUFF, a gay social networking application used by 7 million people worldwide, features two men eyeing each