self-critical

I settled into the chair as much as you can when the chair was made for a 9-year-old. I sat across from the teacher with excited anticipation. I have loved parent-teacher conferences from the time my oldest daughter entered Kindergarten.
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Of course none of us are perfect. We all struggle in our own way. Expecting that we should have it 'all together' all the time sets us up for a lifetime of disappointing ourselves.
Life is too precious to waste it lost in our heads, evaluating ourselves, one step removed from our own experience. We can more fully live our life by paying attention to our senses and being willing to feel what we are actually experiencing at any given moment in time.
Once I understood the alien point of view toward myself, I had to expel it! It has been extremely helpful to make the voice conscious.
When we emphasize compassion over esteem and measure our successes in terms of what we give as opposed to what we get, we build a solid sense of self that can leave us feeling less stress and more satisfaction in our lives. We can overcome insecurities and accomplish much more. And when we fall short, we can take a positive and resilient attitude that ensures better outcomes in the future.
Think of the times we say things we regret about other women. Who are we saying these things to? In what context do these feelings arise? And most importantly, what are the underlying feelings driving the negative comment?
The negative thoughts and feelings that are inflicted upon us might also come from inside of us too. While honest self-reflection is healthy and can lead to positive change, it's also important to be kind to ourselves and remember the things we do well. 
To be able to recognize and separate from destructive voices, we must first recognize that many thoughts we regard as our own point of view may not really be representative of our true self.
Most people have never been treated as poorly by another human being as they have by the voices in their own heads. So what are we to do with this voice? What's this voice for?
As my friend so wisely pointed out, who was I to judge what was excellence in my yoga practice? My ego, the judge, was arrogant enough to think it knew better than my body what was right and good for me.
The only thing you need do is find security within yourself -- to reach the point where what you think of yourself becomes more important than any external opinion.