From the time children are small, parents help them to develop self-control. Rightly so, we see this skill as necessary for success in life. Regulating their emotions and impulses allows kids to avoid getting in trouble at school and to behave well during religious services, birthday parties, visits to grandma's house, and play dates.
If you have not been able to reach the goals you had in mind or been stuck in an exhausting cycle of improvement/relapse, maybe it is time to give the weapon of self-discipline a rest. Does that mean you will have to give up your goals? Not necessarily. But it does mean that you need to look at these goals in the bigger context of your life and dig deeper at your own motivations.
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Does self-discipline today really pay off later in life -- in jobs, paychecks, promotions and bonuses, professional prestige and wealth? Surprisingly, given the importance of employment to well-being and the global economy, the link between self-control and job success has not been thoroughly studied. Until now.
We need to strive for a more balanced parenting approach in which kids are receiving several hours of free play, devoid of screen time, and also receiving a lot of form and structure in their day that will help them to plan their next great invention and feel confident that they can create a great life for themselves.
Changing your mindset to being a victor of your life, sets the stage for you to regain your power. In this state, you are more likely to also stay positive in the face of challenges, experiencing less fear as the stress response is more controlled. More importantly, you are more likely to access your inner fire of motivation -- that fire that drives you to win and achieve.